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Question: Do you want to meet new people when travelling solo  (Voting closed: September 28, 2025, 06:45:49)
Never - 1 (6.3%)
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Sometimes - to make lasting relationships - 0 (0%)
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« on: September 23, 2025, 06:42:00 »

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Traveling alone can sound a little scary, right? Walking into a hostel for the first time, you might wonder, “How am I ever going to meet people here?” The good news—hostels are made for meeting new friends

The ... question ... comes if you are travelling solo - do you actually want to meet people?

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« Reply #1 on: September 23, 2025, 07:08:52 »

The ... question ... comes if you are travelling solo - do you actually want to meet people?

I have answered my own question - "sometimes - normally as something of a brief encounter".    I love meeting people and learning a little about them, their view of the world, and why they are travelling. 

When cruising (and that is not alone - it's with Lisa) we often join other tables with random other cruisers for dinner - random in that they just happen to be the 3 or 4 other couples, or singles, who have turned up at the restaurant "happy to share" at the same time. But very, very rarely do we hook up with / latch on to others - the world is full of so many different people with different interests and just as I am a travel / transport / dog bore to them, so we I enjoy hearing about their  DIY / golf / fishing / housekeeping / grandkids exploits in small doses, and their politics out of interest to understand and not because I share their views.

When on a train,  I / we sometimes have encounters and strike up conversations.  Far more so on the more countrysideesque lines that in the urban areas and cities.  Fascinating and I can enjoy a journey chatting (in fact I often wish the ice had been broken earlier in the journey to learn more), but very rarely indeed is there anything to be ongoing beyond the journey, or would I want to be accompanied by that same person on a significant proportion o my journeys, or for more than a day or two.

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« Reply #2 on: September 23, 2025, 10:38:12 »

When I used the trains a lot, I had the very occasional brief conversation. On my walks, either a sometimes circuitous one to the shops, or longer ones in the country, I welcome brief encounters with cats (most of whom are very nervous), dogs and people. Sometimes responding to a dog's sniffy interest or barking leads to a few minutes' chat.

A month ago I was walking on the Salisbury Plain ranges and a motor-cyclist pausing for a fag came over to see if he could help when I was peering at the map. And two middle-aged pedal cyclists stopped separately for a chat.

It's surprising the number of women I meet some way from civilisation, sometimes walking dogs.  I give them lots of space and a cheery "Good Morning", though often they instigate a conversation.
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« Reply #3 on: September 23, 2025, 17:08:19 »


A month ago I was walking on the Salisbury Plain ranges and a motor-cyclist pausing for a fag came over to see if he could help when I was peering at the map. And two middle-aged pedal cyclists stopped separately for a chat.

It's surprising the number of women I meet some way from civilisation, sometimes walking dogs.  I give them lots of space and a cheery "Good Morning", though often they instigate a conversation.


That reminds me of an anecdote from one of my fellow van drivers, years ago.  Apparently her brother, a motorcyclist, was enjoying a casual bike ride in Windsor Great Park when he saw two equestriennes (females on horseback, for the benefit of those not familiar with the term). He pulled over, stopped the engine and sat down to make a roll-up cigarette while they passed.

They actually stopped and started to chat with him. After a while, it apparently began to dawn on him that he recognised them from somewhere. They were indeed the Princesses Beatrice and Eugenie, out for an informal ride in the park.  Grin

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« Reply #4 on: September 23, 2025, 17:27:07 »

I answered not usually, but I do like having chats with the onboard train crew when possible.
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« Reply #5 on: September 23, 2025, 17:45:05 »


That reminds me of an anecdote from one of my fellow van drivers, years ago.  Apparently her brother, a motorcyclist, was enjoying a casual bike ride in Windsor Great Park when he saw **Snip**


Met with better fortunes than did teenage us when, seeing one of the only useable lengths of Thames towpath, we hopped ashore to tow the boat. Unfortunately, that stretch of around 1 1/2 miles of immaculately maintained path is part of the private chunk of Windsor Great Park and we only managed around 100 yards of towing before various security guards arrived to chuck us off.

How that length of the navigation worked when the path was needed in anger I don't know. 

Perhaps, like much of the rest of the Thames navigation, it didn't work particularly well, one of the reasons why canal companies were desparate to bypass it entirely - their ambitions for the most part thwarted by the influences of the Thames Commissioners.

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« Reply #6 on: September 23, 2025, 18:30:34 »

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Traveling alone can sound a little scary, right? Walking into a hostel for the first time, you might wonder, “How am I ever going to meet people here?” The good news—hostels are made for meeting new friends

The ... question ... comes if you are travelling solo - do you actually want to meet people?


I wouldn't say that I want to meet people - but I don't mind if I do.  A quick chat, comparing notes about possibly compromised journey plans, for example, is fine with me.  Wink

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« Reply #7 on: September 23, 2025, 18:43:54 »

While I don't seek out meeting people on days out, some chance encounters that I've had can be most rewarding/interesting/entertaining.
Only a few days ago during a trip to Cardiff I had occasion to strike up a conversation over a drink (ot two) with a charming American lady on a "networking" business related trip....to London....but took a train, on a whim, to Cardiff for the day before flying home because she'd never been to Wales.
What followed was a very interesting chat with her for an hour before she had to go for her train.  Totally unexpected and a pleasure.
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« Reply #8 on: September 23, 2025, 20:56:43 »

...That reminds me of an anecdote from one of my fellow van drivers, years ago.  Apparently her brother, a motorcyclist, was enjoying a casual bike ride in Windsor Great Park when he saw two equestriennes (females on horseback, for the benefit of those not familiar with the term). He pulled over, stopped the engine and sat down to make a roll-up cigarette while they passed.

They actually stopped and started to chat with him. After a while, it apparently began to dawn on him that he recognised them from somewhere. They were indeed the Princesses Beatrice and Eugenie, out for an informal ride in the park.  Grin


As Lockdown eased I was walking alongside the River Pang near Bucklebury (In West Berkshire) when I met two women coming the other way.  We socially distanced and exchanged cheerful greetings. Fifty yards later, I realised it was the mother of the present Princess of Wales - she lives the other side of the village.  I dunno if there are tours of the locality for foreign visitors, but in the Pang Valley there are three houses where the Middletons lived and two schools that the Princess attended. And at the time of the wedding at least two pubs claimed to be their local.
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« Reply #9 on: September 23, 2025, 23:55:39 »

We're going off (again) at a bit of a tangent here, but I do remember BBC» (British Broadcasting Corporation - home page) news reporting from the day after the wedding. They had footage of Mr Middleton, sitting on a motor mower, cutting the grass in their garden.

Well, if you've just had the honour of giving your daughter in marriage to the heir to the throne, life will go on - and the grass won't cut itself.  Grin

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« Reply #10 on: September 28, 2025, 18:50:16 »

12 out of 16 who voted in this poll selected "usually not" or "sometimes / usually a brief encounter" with other passengers, and only one selected "always" - perhaps we have a member of staff who's job it is to engage? It rather confirms our reticence to engage - and there's further interesting question for me as to why that is - is it we ourselves, or because how the person / people engaged with might take the approach?

Yesterday, Mark A and I were joined at Swindon by a group of ladies who were no spring chickens, but never the less were younger than us and seeing (or, rather, hearing their outgoing approach I exchanged a couple of minutes of friendly banter - hope I didn't embarrass you, Mark.    On the other hand, at the Acton Depot open day the previous weekend I was joined by a couple at the picnic / eating area looking for somewhere to sit - to talk or not?  After a couple of leading questions which were answered with single words, and no mirrored questions from them, I got the message. 
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